I haven't been blogging much lately. It's been hard to get some good pictures of Emily. She has been so clingy lately. We are now well into week number 3 of her just wanting ME to hold her and she wants me to hold her ALOT. What's up with that? She also has started whining alot too so I haven't been very patient with her lately (which I'm sure is contributing to the clinginess). So I need some parenting advice people! For example, this morning I put her on the changing table to pull her hair back into a pony tail at the top and all of a sudden she starts grabbing at me and trying to stand up and says "hold . . .hold". So I pick her up for a couple of seconds and tell her I want to brush her hair and put a bow in it, so I try to sit her back down and she starts crying and grabbing at me again. So then I thought I would sit her in my lap and try to brush her hair and she becomes this big ol' wiggle worm and starts rolling all over the bed I'm sitting on. So I go back to the changing table and this time I lose my patience and tell her to be still in a very stern voice and of course that starts an avalanche of tears. The other night in BJ's she doesn't want to sit in the cart and keeps trying to stand up and tell me to hold her. So I tell her I can't because I can't hold her and try to push that big cart. I keep trying to sit her back down while I'm going to get 1 ITEM in the store and she screams the whole way thru and crying "night night" (which is her way of saying she wants her pacifier) and crying "daddy". I don't know what to do. In my mind I'm thinking, "am I creating a whiny child by letting her cling to me and make a big deal out of such simple little tasks that should take 2 minutes". I've tried holding her and hugging her when she gets like that thinking she needs a little bit of attention, but it seems to be at such random times that I can't figure out what's wrong, and I don't know how to handle it. I don't want to contribute to her whining but I also don't want her to be in therapy as an adult saying I didn't hold her when she needed me : )
Any advice would be greatly appreciated it . . . now to some pictures.
Sawyer and Emily played at the children's computers at the library:
Here she is sitting in the toy box at my parent's house:
Here is a picture of Emily starting to whine (can you see the lip starting to poke out). I was trying to get a picture of her on her new stool and holding her new Bible we got her:
I sold my old camera to my brother and just got a new one. Here's the picture I took trying to test out the timer on my camera. Joe made this face right when the timer went off:
Here she is sitting in the toy box at my parent's house:
2 comments:
Your "situation" is so funny. I was just thinking about you and I e-mailing about this when she was about 1 -- I was thinking about it because Terrin is going through that craying when I leave the room and waking up at night (which he hasn't done in MONTHS!) Anyway, it is so easy to give advice when it is someone else's child. Hang in there -- hopefully it is a stage since she has not always been that way. "Experts" (you know, people who don't ahve kids) say they get to an age that the realize that you leave sometimes and the separation is real to them now. But, with Talon, I would hug him, like you said, then tell him I need him to be a big boy and not cry (throw a fit, kick, scream, etc.) By the way, he still goes through these clingy times, and he is 5. Sometimes I have even swatted him and told him that mommy loves him, but he has to sit still. Basically I wanthim to know that I love him and will always be there/return to him. But, he has to follow the rules in the meantime. (Does this thing have spell check???)
baby seals is right. All kids do this off and on. At least mine do. They go through these clingy uncertain stages but like baby seals said, they still have to obey you. I have had to do this with both of mine - go to Bible class, start the crying and I tell them that they will be fine, mommy, loves them, etc. and then if they persists I say if you don't go into class mommy will spank you. Nolan always dried it up and went on in but Paul always took a couple of spanks before he relented. Every kid is different! Find what works for you but don't be a softy! Be consistent and this too will pass!
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